Women in Law

How long are you willing to travel for work if you have a young child at home? Have an upcoming trip that is much longer than I am comfortable with (2+ weeks) and wondering if it would be looked down … more

This is a little random. But if you have the choice to port your phone line to your firm account (and they pay the monthly bill) or get a second work phone, which would you choose?

Not law related - Quitting breastfeeding after six weeks and feeling guilty about it. Any words of advice?

I just turned 30 and am a 2nd year associate at a boutique lit firm. Just had annual review and was told I’m killing it and to keep up the good work. It’s starting to cross my mind more often that I… more

Seeking a new path away from litigation, eyeing in-house counsel roles. Skilled in labor and employment law, I aim to reduce motion practice and writing. Keen on roles involving presentations and lega… more

Any advice for a litigation paralegal transitioning into commercial law ?

I was just sworn in yesterday. I took the bar as a foreign attorney. I was a criminal defense lawyer for 4 years in my originating country. I moved to the US and got a job as a Paralegal in a criminal… more

I am struggling to work a full day. I know it's only 9 days into the billing year, but oh my gosh I am burnt out. I am taking a vacation for the MLK long weekend, but even that doesn't seem li… more

Looking for advice from anyone who has opened their own firm in California with another person. My friend and I (both attorneys) are in the process of starting our own firm. I'm trying to figure o… more

What’s your take on lateraling to a new firm while 4 months pregnant (and planning to take full maternity leave)? Do firms handle that well? IRL, do people hate you for it?

Has anyone else struggled with the decision of whether or not to have children? I’ve never felt that primal yearning to be mother that others have described. But I do think I want to have a child &… more

Currently pregnant with my first and hope to have a second somewhat soon after (so they at 18-24mo apart). Currently a mid-level BL associate. The idea of working in BL as a mom seems unrealistic/awfu… more

Venting- I’ve been offered a job and I’m in the background check/ referral process. I’ve asked 2 women and 2 men who were former bosses and coworkers and everyone said yes. The men each completed the … more

As an associate, if you were offered non equity partnership, would you accept or rather stay associate (with guaranteed income/salary)?

Any recommendations for a prenup lawyer in/around the Denver area?

Hello, I am a 6th year attorney in Florida who was recently made Senior Counsel at my firm. I have been focusing my practice on construction law and have been handling my own cases for about a year, i… more

Need recommendations for what’s fashionable in big law today for female associates. I’ve been remote since the pandemic and finally need to start going into the office next month when my maternity lea… more

Biglaw 6th year here. I had a brutal November and December - 80 hour weeks all while attempting not to miss family events for the holidays. I’m also planning my wedding in May. I am about 1000% burnt … more

What brands LOOK like professional pants but FEEL like sweats/leggings?

I can't go back to stuffing my FUPA into bodycon dresses or non stretchy pants.

OSF Healthcare System is trying to fill an in-house employment counsel position. The position is posted on LinkedIn as Hybrid, but for the right candidate, it could be mostly remote. The job is poste… more

When interviewing for a lateral position, would it be appropriate to ask the hiring committee how they value working mothers? The job is hybrid, but on Glassdoor I saw a current employee say they kind… more

For those who are moms- how do you balance being a mom and being a lawyer? Please send help/tips? I feel like since I returned to work after maternity leave, I have non-stop panic attacks.

Has anyone done the Fair Play cards with a spouse and were they valuable for you? Any advice on the best way to do it? I just ordered the cards but I haven’t read the book or watched the documentary. … more

Any recommendations for a clean foundation that looks good all day? I’m still in a post-COVID mode just using cerave tinted moisturizer and it seems to melt off in a couple of hours.

What do y’all wear when you defend a deposition? Bonus insight if you’ve been pregnant.

Ladies who workout everyday, how do you manage to not wash your hair daily? Mine gets greasy and gross after every workout and I feel the need to wash daily. I know daily washes are not recommended…?

I’m starting with a new firm tomorrow, in general, I think the dress code is fairly relaxed (slacks, nice jeans, sweaters, etc.). Any suggestions on what to wear for the first day? I’m leaning towards… more

3rd year associate, thinking of lateraling. Starting pay at firm of interest is 130k. Should I aim for 140k? Is that conservative? I have never negotiated salary.

Women lawyers born in the 1980s, if you have grey hair, do you dye it?

I got embarrassingly drunk at a work event. How do I handle this at work tomorrow? Our company culture is a party scene at these events, but I didn’t intend to get that drunk. I took a newer medicatio… more

Hi amazing ladies! Happy New Year!
Can you please help me by sharing your recommendations or favorites for commuting/office backpacks? I want to optimize for comfort while carrying and cargo space - b… more

I need home office chair recommendations! Looking for a cozy chair with back support that fits my build. I’m 5’2” and I struggle with a lot of chairs because the seat depth and height dimensions leave… more

Anyone with a side hustle? How are you balancing it with your day job? How did you go about creating a business plan and making it a reality? How much time are you allocating to it per day/week? What … more

Does anyone else feel like their husband is just the absolute best? Like, will do anything for their family at the drop of a hat—coaches t-ball, does drop offs and pickups, makes dinner, cleans, all the weird da… more

What are you some milestones that are important for a first year to hit that are indicative they are at the right firm?

How much is your billable requirement? Asking about paralegals! Thank you. I just want to see if I am above or under average.

I paid a friend $10,000 for a trip she planned for me (she’s a travel advisor/agent). The trip is next summer. My friend and I had a falling out last month and now she’s ghosting me. Won’t even respo… more

In the last several months I’ve lost a lot of weight. It hasn’t been intentional - I experienced some trauma last year that took a toll on my metal health, my dose of Wellbutrin is way up which increa… more

Currently a 4th year doing well and getting a lot of praise / good feedback from my firm, but I am considering leaving law. The idea of being a service provider and not “in the game” is starting to bo… more

I think I can make partner at my current firm but I don’t like it. I’m senior so if I move, there is no guarantee that I’d make partner at the new firm and I can’t afford another move after that. What… more